Today I wanted to pay special attention to dealing with naysayers in your life. You know the people I’m talking about, the ones who no matter what great idea you come up with, no matter how fantastic it is and how energized you are about it, they’ll tell you you’re crazy and all the reasons why it will fail.
There’s nothing worse than having your ideas shot down by the ones closest to you. The people who you are most excited to share your ideas and passion with can be the same ones that criticize you and call you crazy.
So how do you deal with the people that tell you your ideas are stupid, that they’ll never work, and ask “why are you doing that…it’s guaranteed to fail.” How can you get past the emotional blow this can have on your ideas and overall well being?
Here is a fantastic video from the Good Life Project that helps address this issue.
If you’re an entrepreneur, an artist or anyone who brings to life something from nothing, you’ll have people in your life that look at you and think you’re either insane, a little crazy or perhaps a visionary and thought leader.
Here’s a good first check on whether or not you should listen to someone’s opinion. If the person offering criticism is not also out there in the arena getting their ass kicked on a daily basis, what they have to say does not matter!
If they aren’t out there doing the same things you’re trying to do, whether they are good ideas or bad, whether they succeed or fail, then they are not speaking from a place of experience. If that’s the case, should you take what they have to say to heart? Should you integrate that into your decision making process or into how you feel about yourself?
So how do you deal with people close to you and whose opinions you respect and want to hear? You need to determine who it is you should jettison from your decision making process, even if they are close to you and whose opinions you actually respect.
You cannot just blindly reject anyone who opposes your ideas because some people you actually want to listen to as they may by able t help you.
How do you do this? Ask them them this question in a curious way “What are your opinions based on?” Is their opinion based on intuition or real data?
When you go out into the world and take action, take risks and make yourself vulnerable and the people close do you don’t, instead they live a life where they’re not content with what they have but are so led by fear that they won’t take action because they believe they will fail and things will be worse, this puts them in a bit of an awkward situation.
If you succeed, then your success becomes manifest evidence that they’re decision not to risk, not to be vulnerable, they’re decision not to take similar action is wrong. That is a really uncomfortable place for them to be. Your success forces them to see that reality, and it becomes something they cannot ignore.
If you fail, then they’re assumptions about not making any changes are validated and they just keep on living as they are. So when people reject you, it may be out of fear of change for themselves. Fear of failure and fear to take action.
Prove them wrong!
You need people in your life that think differently than you and who can constructively offer a different perspective or viewpoint on the subject. Sometimes as someone who gets very passionate about their ideas, you may not see the pitfalls or potential problems. Not that you cannot get around them but people whose opinions you respect can help you see these hurdles and plan for them so you CAN succeed.
Before spending months, years or even decades on an idea that you one day may look back on and wish you’d listened to those people that warned you, talk to someone who has done something similar. Talk to as many people as you can be be sure they are coming from a place of integrity and experience.
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